What Women Absolutely Don’t Want Before Sex? Men, Take Note
Men often say: "You women should come with an instruction manual...". Many of them believe women are very complicated and hard to "read," and here’s what lies behind that.
Music
You’ve arrived at the apartment and now you need to pull out your ace to avoid turning the evening into a disaster. Chances are slim you’ll get a second chance. You’re trying to think about what she might like, how to impress her from the start. You go for the usual recipe: romance, candles, music... If you don’t know her well, “classics” are a safe bet.
Even though you might think women go crazy for party hits, don’t play a playlist full of songs that scream sex: "Let's Get It On," "Sexual Healing," "I Wanna Sex You Up"... Be subtle, and if you keep your distance and hide how eager you are to rip her clothes off, she’ll want you even more – reports B92.
Seduction runs in women’s veins, and if you don’t show much interest, they’ll try even harder to “change your mind” and prove to themselves they can enchant you and make you completely unable to resist them...
Mobile Phone
You’re sitting in your quiet spot, talking about a topic that clearly won’t lead to awkward silence, and you’re getting closer by the minute, when it happens. Beep. A message... Then another, and someone suddenly asks: "Hey buddy, how’s it going?" You ignore it... But the damage might already be done. Some women will start thinking about who’s texting you and why.
Even if the woman next to you isn’t one of those, you don’t want to risk that she might turn out to be.
Mute your phone, let your friends know in advance not to disturb you, and get back to everyone else another time. Show her that tonight, she is the center of your attention.
Straight from Door to Bed
For men, probably the ideal scenario. But for women – almost the worst. Especially if you haven’t already spent some time kissing in the car or in front of the entrance, so that it felt like a natural continuation of the evening. If you’re just planning to "discover what she’s hiding under her shirt," you’ll need to play the long game.
Be patient and wait for her sign that it’s “go time.” Rushing, pushing, and grabbing her butt and breasts is a “BIG NO.”
"Oh, come on..."
Most women will clearly set boundaries, and you’ll know where you stand. If she says: I’m not ready for anything under the covers, it’s too soon, we don’t know each other – respect that. Any attempt to convince her to change her mind and go further that night is something you should avoid at all costs.
One evening is not a lifetime – be patient and respect what she’s told you. The very next day she might be the one calling you and saying: "Are you home? We could watch a movie... just the two of us..." Women love men who show that they respect their words and honor their decisions.
What Time Is It?
When you’re with her, time should stop... At least that’s how women feel if you’ve gotten to the point of sipping wine and sharing sensual kisses on her or your couch.
Checking the time can leave a very bad impression – that you’re in a hurry, bored, or just can’t wait for something to finally happen. Let the evening flow like time has truly stopped.
“Just-for-the-sake-of-it” Kisses
Simply – don’t! If you’re not in the mood to kiss, keep your lips away from her. Anything is better than giving her a kiss that’s mechanical and thoughtless. Bad kisses, superficial and lacking any passion, are a huge turn-off for women. And it would be the same for you if the roles were reversed, right?
"May I...?"
Polite and well-mannered men are magnets for women. But a man who knows what he wants is an even bigger magnet. Oh yes... Confident, a bit rebellious, seemingly fearless and decisive... It’s nice to ask a woman: "May I kiss you..." if it’s your first kiss and you’re unsure if she’s on the same page. But if you’ve already been on a few dates and had good conversations, don’t ask permission for every next move. It will leave the impression that you’re insecure and that “your world will collapse” if you make a wrong step.
